More Thoughts on Inspiration: How Does Sugar-Coating the Reality of Business Hurt Us?

More Thoughts on Inspiration: How Does Sugar-Coating the Reality of Business Hurt Us?

The response I received to last week's inspiration post was really overwhelming, in the best possible way. Blogging about potentially controversial perspectives can be scary at times; even while I'm not usually too concerned with whether people agree with me, I also don't want my intentions to be misunderstood, nor do I want to take the wind out of any well-meaning people's sails. (I've put way too much effort into supporting other business owners to then haphazardly do something to tear anyone down.) I was really moved to see how many people seemed to get where I was coming from, and voiced their support in the form of blog comments, private messages and social media shares.

One of the comments from the post got me thinking on another potential issue with some of the "inspiration" groups out there: that of experienced business owners being expected to help and mentor newcomers to the industry, because that somehow is the good or "right" thing to do. There almost seems to be some kind of moral obligation attached to it, and while the more popular and socially acceptable response seems to rally around the idea of "paying it forward" in this way, I'm seeing many wedding professionals bristling about the unrealistic expectations being placed on them. (I touched on this briefly in Kyle's and my post about competition not being an inherently bad thing, where I pointed out, "To imply to newcomers that success in business is, or should be, anything other than a meritocracy doesn't do anyone any good. In fact, it's instilling false hope to send the message that any amount of cheerleading and handholding can come close to the real work that goes into making a business thrive."

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Will "Inspiration" Be Our Industry's Downfall?

Will "Inspiration" Be Our Industry's Downfall?

I once saw a quote attributed to the author Timothy Ferriss that said, "What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do." I think that quote kind of applies to this post. I've been thinking about a particular topic for a long time, and haven't written about it because, frankly, I didn't know how to approach it without pissing people off.

I know...that's never stopped me before, right?

Still, this one is a lot more personal than some of the other incendiary posts I've written. And this one applies to a lot of people whom I'd like to believe have good intentions. But when something in this industry is negatively impacting business owners, I think it's worth discussing. So here goes.

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How the Wedding Industry is (Still) Hostile to Women

How the Wedding Industry is (Still) Hostile to Women

Most of the posts we write for WeddingIQ either offer advice for wedding business owners, or examine a wedding industry issue with our suggestions for solutions or changes.

Unfortunately, some topics don't have an easy solution; some topics come straight from the heart. Today's topic is one of those. I'm writing today from my own experience, as well as experiences my friends and colleagues have shared with me that make working in this industry a challenge.

It seems that women in the wedding industry should have it easy. After all, what sector is more female-led than that of weddings? With only a couple of exceptions, most event service categories are dominated by women, and the majority of business transactions are initiated by female clients (hence why "brides" somehow became the collective vernacular for all wedding clients, before gender-neutral language was commonly embraced).

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Event Sponsorships and Services In-Kind: Worthwhile or a Waste?

Event Sponsorships and Services In-Kind: Worthwhile or a Waste?

Last week, I had an interesting chat with a colleague on the topic of the perennial requests made of event professionals: "Will you sponsor our event?" (In other words, are you willing to donate your services and/or products for free?)

We've written before about how to determine whether participating in a styled shoot is worth the time, money and resources. Styled shoots, as common as they've become, are just the tip of the iceberg, though - most wedding businesses are solicited on the regular to sponsor networking events, charity functions, media bashes and more.

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10 Ways Wedding Vendors are Hurting Themselves and Each Other

10 Ways Wedding Vendors are Hurting Themselves and Each Other

The topics of vendor behavior and vendor relationships are big ones here at WeddingIQ. A major part of our mission with this blog is to raise the bar for professional standards within the industry, and obviously, how we as wedding business owners conduct ourselves, and interact with one another, is where professional standards are formed.

We've written at length about being a good citizennot relying on other vendors to help you do your jobworking well with photographers (and vice versa)how to demonstrate respect other vendorsthe golden rule for wedding vendorsbeing someone you would want to do business with#weddingphotogate and more. We've published goo-gobs of anonymous rants, most of which were from vendors taking issue with the conduct and business practices of other vendors.

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