So I've clearly neglected this blog, and have been lying every time I've said I'd post over the past couple of months. Maybe I should feel bad about it, as I’m generally someone who tries very hard to keep her word, but to be totally honest, I don’t. It was a short week, I’ve been juggling an entirely new routine, and I realized my readership would probably be way down the day before Thanksgiving. So, I chose to take my time in shuttering my business for the holiday, to enjoy my babies, and to relax in knowing that it was up to me whether or not to write.
That brings up a topic I’ve been thinking about, though: how important it is for small business owners, particularly in an industry as draining as weddings, to take the personal time they need. I think that being in a constant state of stress becomes kind of a badge of honor among the self-employed, as though round-the-clock work lends validation to what we choose to do for a living. All day long my Facebook feed reads like a ticker tape of career martyrdom — Going on 30 hours with no sleep! 10 back-to-back meetings today! Will I ever be unburied?! — and I think, is this what being one’s own boss is supposed to be like?
(Make no mistake: I’ve been guilty of workaholism, too. For someone like me, a dangerous combination of being both insanely competitive and a born people-pleaser, the temptation to funnel all my energy into work is pretty strong. I’ve just realized it hasn’t really gotten me where I want to be, and hasn’t always been worth the sacrifice.)
I really admire the wedding pros I’ve seen who are aces at mastering their schedules. Like clockwork, they take two days off each week (Like normal people! Gasp!), they utilize email autoresponders and voice mail greetings to advise people of their schedules, and they are able to tune out and turn off before burnout sets in. I think if more of us made a commitment to ourselves to take the personal time we need, our work, collectively, would benefit.