Don't Take It Personally

WeddingIQ Blog - Don't Take it Personally

I admit I have a hard time not taking things personally.  I often tend to perceive actions and comments as a slight against me when, in reality, these things probably have very little to do with me at all.  Someone didn’t respond to my email?  They must not think it (or I) was important enough.  Someone ignored me at a networking event?  They must be thinking negative things about me.  Crickets are chirping when I post on Facebook or Twitter?  No one must like me anymore!

Of course this is ridiculous.  And yet, I think it’s probably a pretty common response.  When someone doesn’t respond as we expect them to, when their opinion on a hot-button topic is different from ours, when their priorities and values don’t reflect our own, rarely or ever is this personal.

Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements, reminds us of the following:

"Whatever happens around you, don't take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves."

Those who know me well know that my company has had to bear more than its fair share of ridiculous mudslinging and gossip, so Ruiz’s sentiment is one I’ve reminded myself about on many occasions.  In fact, I have it posted in my workspace and reflect on it fairly often.  It’s a pretty good salve for insecurity, and helps me to keep things in perspective: that it’s not me, it’s them.


Jennifer Reitmeyer

Jennifer Reitmeyer is the founder of WeddingIQ and the owner of MyDeejay, Firebrand Messaging, and Authentic Boss. She is also a WeddingWire Education Expert, a small business coach and a professional speaker on the event industry circuit.